Mrs Constance Mary WILDE, unlucky wife of Oscar, was
initiated into the Golden Dawn very early in its proceedings, in November 1888,
and took the Latin motto ‘Qui patitur vincit’.
At that time she and Oscar were living at the address most associated
with them as a couple, 16 Tite Street Chelsea.
An undated note in the GD’s administrative files said of her membership
that it was “in abeyance”; almost certainly NOT because of Oscar’s trial but
because of the much earlier uproar caused by his novel The Portrait of Dorian
Grey.
It’s
always difficult to separate the wife of a very famous man from her husband so
that she can shine in her own light for once, but there are several biographies
of Constance. The latest is
Constance:
the Tragic and Scandalous Life of Mrs Oscar Wilde by Franny Moyle. London: John
Murray 2011 and now also in paperback. I
shall only add some references which show that Constance knew various people
who are THE PEOPLE SHE KNEW IN THE GOLDEN DAWN, though I think the GD member
most likely to have put Constance up for membership was W B Yeats.
Collected
Letters of W B Yeats Vol I 1865-95 show that W B knew both Constance and her husband. He probably visited them on a regular basis,
because there are no letters from him to Constance in volumes I or II. Constance’s biography shows her setting up on
the ‘at home’ circuit once she and Oscar had moved into Tite Street and I
expect W B was one of her guests at these functions which were more like a
public performance than chatting with friends.
Moving in the same social circles, the Wildes and W B tended all to be
invited to the same kind of social function - for example W B, Constance and
Oscar were amongst 300 guests at a ‘home rule party’ in May 1888 at which Mrs
Gladstone made a speech.
Reforming
Women’s Fashion 1850-1920: Politics, Health and Art by Patricia A
Cunningham. Published Kent State
University Press 2003. This book has
references to GD members Dora de Blaquière and Mary Eliza Haweis, both of whom
were involved the rational dress movement in which Constance was also an
important figure. On p116 Cunningham
explains that a more common-sense approach to dress was very much a part of
what the aesthetic movement believed in.
The Wildes were leaders of the aesthetic movement. Other people involved were Frederick Leighton;
G F Watts; William Morris and May Morris.
Cunningham DOESN’T specifically say that Constance, Dora and Mary Eliza
all knew each other before they became GD members.
It’s
possible that Constance also knew GD member Isabel de Steiger in the years
before GD existed. In Isabel’s memoirs
she mentions attending Lady Wilde’s Saturday afternoon ‘at homes’ in the 1870s
and 1880s. Consequently Isabel knew
Oscar Wilde and his brother Willie, and may have met Constance as well although
she doesn’t specifically say so. Memorabilia:
Reminiscences of a Woman Artist and Writer by Isabelle (sic) de
Steiger. London: Rider and Co. No publication date but there’s a British
Library stamp dated “27 May 27".
Page 81: Isabel going to “Lady Wilde’s on Saturday afternoons”. Knowing Oscar and Willie Wilde, p85; but
Willie better because he (but not Oscar) was a member of the Theosophical
Society.
DE
BREMONT
I
will also say - because I doubt if it figures in the biography I’ve recommended
- that Constance was a member of the Society for Psychical Research, which she
joined in October 1892, after she had stopped being an active member of
GD. Evidence of her continuing
membership: Journal of the Society for Psychical Research volume V
1891-92 number XCIII issued October 1892 p297 the list of new members since the
last issue includes p298 Mrs Oscar Wilde of 16 Tite Street Chelsea. She is still listed as a member in Proceedings
of the Society for Psychical Research volume XI 1895 p624 has her as a full
member, still calling herself ‘Wilde’ (she later took another surname, for the
protection of her sons) but living in exile now, at Hotel du Parc, Glion sur
Montreux, Switzerland. Proceedings of
the Society for Psychical Research volume XV 1900-01 no longer lists her in
its members; she was dead by then.
BASIC
SOURCES I USED for all Golden Dawn members.
Membership
of the Golden Dawn: The Golden Dawn Companion by R A Gilbert. Northampton: The Aquarian Press 1986. Between pages 125 and 175, Gilbert lists the
names, initiation dates and addresses of all those people who became members of
the Hermetic Order of the Golden Dawn or its many daughter Orders between 1888
and 1914. The list is based on the
Golden Dawn’s administrative records and its Members’ Roll - the large piece of
parchment on which all new members signed their name at their initiation. All this information had been inherited by
Gilbert but it’s now in the Freemasons’ Library at the United Grand Lodge of
England building on Great Queen Street Covent Garden.
Family
history: freebmd; ancestry.co.uk (census and probate); findmypast.co.uk;
familysearch; Burke’s Peerage and Baronetage; Burke’s Landed Gentry; Armorial
Families; thepeerage.com; and a wide variety of family trees on the web.
Famous-people
sources: mostly about men, of course, but very useful even for the female
members of GD. Oxford Dictionary of
National Biography. Who Was Who. Times
Digital Archive.
Catalogues:
British Library; Freemasons’ Library.
Wikipedia;
Google; Google Books - my three best resources.
I also used other web pages, but with some caution, as - from the
historian’s point of view - they vary in quality a great deal.
Copyright
SALLY DAVIS
27
April 2012